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A Dark Epiphany

“This must be Thursday. I never could get the hang of Thursdays.”

Arthur Dent

“If I ever meet myself, I’ll hit myself so hard I won’t know what’s hit me.”

Zaphod Beeblebrox

My whole idea of “Throw It Back Thursday” was that I was going to take some of my drafts that were undeveloped or underdeveloped and toss them back into the stream of consciousness called the blogosphere and release them. Maybe someday in the future, they would grow into a full-sized entry that someone could be proud of. By posting them on the Internet I figured they would have a chance for even somebody else to catch and do something with.

Then I did an actual Throwback Thursday, except it wasn’t, because I had never written about the bird-in-the-house incident on the blog before. So it kind of was and kind of wasn’t a Throwback Thursday. As I was scrolling around looking for the link to that story I discovered something about my blog and worse, about myself. I learned that I have at least a five-year (actually longer) gap where I can’t find that I wrote much of anything, even in my personal archives, but especially the blog. It is true that I have tried several different blog software installations in the past and might have blown up a few things in that time, but until recently I have always typed up my entries first, then copied and pasted them, so they should be in my personal archives on the external hard drive.

If they ever existed at all. Which I don’t think they did.

Last Thursday night I had an epiphany about myself and my writing. I had a surprisingly hard time pinning myself down, too. I didn’t want to examine it. I didn’t want to look too deeply into it. Every time I’d start to realize what I was looking at and what it meant, I turned away. I knew that somewhere in this blog, Prudentia Sit – Let common sense prevail, was a key to a door I didn’t want to open up. But five years‽‽‽ I knew that I had to find out what was up but at the same time I knew that I didn’t want to. Knowing the fact that I didn’t want to do it made it all the more imperative on my mind to do it.

From 2009 until 2014, actually well beyond that, I wrote nothing. Zip. Zilch. Nada. From April 15, 2009 through April 7, 2014 I made 9 entries in five years and the 4 in 2014 were just junk about the new software. Installing new software wasn’t much good if I didn’t put anything in it. It wasn’t until 2015 when my daughter’s sickness was so bad that I blogged at all.

I forced myself to look into what had gone on. Where were those five years? I try to look at my writing as objectively as a person can. I read some of that old stuff and realized that while there was a lot of prattling drivel, some of it was actually pretty good. What had happened? I just gave up writing for that time but why? Why did I quit writing in 2009? 2009 was a weird year. One of the several things that happened that year was that my dad passed away. That was tough. That year we also moved into a new place. We had a lot of bad things happen to and with and about family members. I thought of a couple of things and when I talked to my wife about it she pointed out that several other things, which I had forgotten, had happened. And there was something else.

Before I continue this story I want to emphatically state that the person involved in this story did nothing wrong. At all. She was and as far as I know, still is, a respectable and respected professional who had a tough job to do. She was a follower of my blog around that time of 2007 or earlier through 2009. She may still follow this blog in the shadows with the hopes that I will have this very epiphany. I’ve used that word twice now, but normally when I think of the word, “epiphany,” I think of positive things. I even looked it up, just to double-check my usage. According to the Merriam-Webster dictionary website:

3a(1): a usually sudden manifestation or perception of the essential nature or meaning of something
(2): an intuitive grasp of reality through something (such as an event) usually simple and striking
(3): an illuminating discovery, realization, or disclosure
b: a revealing scene or moment


But I think that by those definitions, there can be negative or dark epiphanies as well.

Anyway, this follower ran a small publishing company. She loved a series of Christmas stories I had done on my blog and when I had pitched the idea of turning it into a book, she was more than very interested. “I love it! Herb, that’s a great idea, and the way you made the main character so human was great.” I had a book deal! I was so happy I was in tears! I read the e-mail out loud over and over. We talked the details over on the phone and I worked and worked and worked and researched and researched and researched and rewrote and rewrote and rewrote. I rewrote it as close to the original blog posts as I could come. And that was the problem.

I wrote the whole book, novella, I think, actually, in the Second Person Point Of View. She read it and told me the truth. “Second Person is too clunky for a story this long. You need to rewrite it in either the First or Third person. It won’t sell.” And that was the end. I just didn’t do it. Oh, I knew she was right and I still know it. Trying to look at it objectively, it’s cumbersome and unwieldy. Family and friends would have a hard time expressing it, but it is what it is. That, I think, was the turning point. That, along with all the other stuff that went on in that year, put me into a depression. A hole I couldn’t climb out of. I am perfectionist and OCD and in my mind, I could do nothing more until I had fixed that. I told my wife last Thursday night when this all dawned on me that my mind was in a mental loop and that’s when she said that, no, I was in a depression all that time. She told me that and I had a sudden perception of the essential meaning of my problems.

My plan of action is:
1) Stick with this blogging streak. I have the numbers I shared yesterday as forcing myself into the discipline of making sure I put something in here every day is important. It makes me accountable.
2) Write some new stories.
3) work on some other writing projects.
4) Work (unobsessively) on that rewrite.


8 responses to “A Dark Epiphany”

  1. Amber Avatar

    Omw I love it! Finally! Yay!

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  2. dumbestblogger Avatar

    This is fantastic. I started my blog in January of 2014, and wrote some sporadic posts. In 2018 I had a situation kind of like yours: my Mom passed away, and I was at a point in my life where I felt very creatively frustrated. I didn’t write anything that year. Last December I finally decided to get my butt in gear and start blogging seriously. Part of me wishes I had done it sooner, but you live and you learn.

    1. Herb Avatar

      Yes, we all live and learn. This has been very beneficial for me. Recognizing the problem for what it is helped, too.

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  3. Tony Laplume Avatar

    Sucks about the manuscript ordeal. Sounds like she simply had second thoughts and never got around to saying so. I hate dishonesty.

    Happy anniversary!

    1. Herb Avatar


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